Feb 21-27 is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week and although it’s coming to an end, I wanted to leave you with a couple thoughts for the weekend.
First, I invite you to check out this amazing essay from blogger Gena from Choosing Raw. Not only is it smart, eloquent, and moving, but it also presents a point I hadn’t thought about before in the eating disorder discussion — that women are taught to abstain from all pleasures of the body, including food and sex. We can only admit to being hungry when we justify it by saying we haven’t eaten all day or we just had a hard workout. Women who talk about loving food are always expected to be super thin. And although our culture is super sexualized, it’s still not every day you hear women (average women, not Megan Fox) talk about loving sex. Gena writes, “Let’s also try to embrace the very real hunger that nature has given us, even if it’s sometimes a little unruly. Desire is a part of life – and a pretty great part of it, if you ask me.”
I hope that everyone who reads this blog will check out Gena’s essay and look to it as a source of inspiration. You should not feel guilty about desire. If you’re hiding out in some shame-filled part of your brain, not willing to embrace your body as a hungry body with cravings (cravings for a number of things), I encourage you to consider the alternative. As someone who regularly puts those cravings out there (see also: morning sex and McMuffins), I can tell you right now, the world won’t stop turning if you do this. And it’s not about how much you eat or weigh or run (or hate running) or whether or not you hook it with a different guy every weekend — the point is to be true to yourself and to your body and stop apologizing for it.
Because we’re realllllllly into apologies. Women loooove to apologize. My mom and grandma are always apologizing to the dog. If we’re not apologizing, we’re justifying our actions somehow. Over it! “I’m sorry I’m not sorry.”
Sometimes a girl needs to eat. And get laid. It’s biology, people — not a big fucking deal.