I love Fridays. Who doesn’t?! Friday is usually a great day wherever you go, as everyone is excited for the weekend.
And Friday night is even better because you’ve got enough energy to get you through the evening, but you’re worn out just enough to totally wind down early.
Most Friday nights, I know exactly what I want to do to wind down.
And it probably isn’t what you think it is.
On Fridays I love to come home, put on something super comfortable, and get in bed with my laptop…and read wedding blogs for hours.
Here’s the thing: I was never That Girl. I didn’t fantasize about my wedding as a teenager. It wasn’t until I got to college and started living in the sorority house that I realized girls were already planning their weddings and had been for a while. I found out that some of my most rational, levelheaded, non-delusional friends had entire binders with wedding clippings stashed under their beds.
I was appalled. Like, Come on, ladies….be ambitious!
I don’t know when I made the switch over; I think it was around last summer. A good friend of mine got engaged and I realized, Oh…I guess this stuff can start happening to us now. And more important, I realized, Oh…I guess I want this stuff to happen to me now.
And suddenly, I had a new hobby.
At first, I would do wedding shows on Friday nights. But the ads would make me feel so terrible. It would be a Friday night and during episodes of “Say Yes to the Dress,” I’d be sitting there in yoga pants getting bombarded with ads for yogurt, mops, Weight Watchers, and eHarmony.
Well, thank you for making me feel like a fucking stereotype.
So I moved onto blogs, and I am much happier. Really, I just love looking at pretty things. It was never about planning my wedding. I don’t care about rings too much. I’m not crazy about lunatic bridezillas. I just love looking at beautiful couples, fabulous photography, great locations, and gorgeous decorations.
Really, I love to see the styles of real people and the work of talented artists.
And I love when it’s inspired by romance.
Reading these blogs makes me feel just so relaxed and happy. It inspires my creative side and my romantic side. It never made me feel sad to be single; it actually made me excited because I’d think, OMG, some day I am going to be that in love!
I love reading the blogs of people who are about girls like me, with similar interests…but I also love reading about people who aren’t quite like me. The brides I see in these blogs are often just a little older, and so I guess I see them more as people I’ll be…soon. And I like that. These blogs, for some odd reason, also make me miss and love my friends. When I think about who I’d want with me at my wedding, I realize how special they are to me, and how excited I am to watch them fall in love and to start going to their weddings.
I keep all these blogs in a folder in my Reader called “Wedz” and don’t read them any other day of the week; I save them all until Friday night. Here is my current line-up:
- The Wedding Chicks (favorite for the real weddings!)
- Glamour’s Save the Date
- 100 Layer Cake
- Inspired Bride
And, in the interest of full disclosure, I’ll also admit to this: my friends and I have a shared Google Doc called “Wedding Porn” where we can share the best wedding ideas we see on the web, like this awesome engagement video I saw a couple weeks ago.
OK, and I’ll admit, there is one other reason I read these blogs: they give me workout motivation. Looking at celebs in “US Weekly” doesn’t make me want to hit the gym quite like seeing real women in strapless gowns. My plan is that if I can get super toned and in great shape now, then I won’t have to be a bridezilla who is starving for carbs for the three months leading up to her wedding.
So after reading these blogs, besides feeling all warm inside, I am always super motivated to do Core Fusion.
I love pretty things. I love romance. I’ve owned it.
This is how I spend my best Friday nights. Sorry I’m not sorry.