It’s no secret that I get excited about nearly everything. This isn’t entirely true, I suppose, but it is a fact that when I am excited, I’m really excited, and it’s just that I mostly only share the things I can truly gush about (or truly bitch about — really, I guess it all comes down to passion).
Even if you don’t gush like I do, I’m willing to bet you do get excited about certain things, in your own way. And I think a really good rule to live by is to only pursue that which allows you to be excited.
Here’s the thing: it’s easy to make decisions on what excites us, and that’s totally not a bad thing. But when you’re approaching school, career, guys, or, well, life, being excited is simply not enough. I’ve learned this year that really feeling happy and satisfied comes from finding a perfect fit because that excitement is mutual.
If you love your job and are willing to work extra hours and come up with great solutions to problems, but your bosses shoot down your ideas and your co-workers make you feel lame for working so much overtime, then, sorry, but you’re not in the right place. Why would you spend that much time and energy loving something that doesn’t love you back? No one should make you feel guilty for being excited about your job. Love your job? That’s fine! You should be able to own it and not feel lame.
It’s a difficult rule to apply to dating, but when you do, I’m telling you, you will be SO much happier. So often, girls get so excited about guys (we’re delusional, we know) and the guys are just so “Whatever” about it. A good guy (or girl!) will not be “Whatever” about you — that person will be all about you. And, more important, they will let you be excited about them.
This is one of the biggest differences I’ve seen in adult relationships compared to fratastic college ones. If you’re used to guys putting you down for your feelings and making you feel like you’re trying too hard, trust me when I say that that’s not the way it should be. You shouldn’t have to feel like a stalker for wanting to hang out with a guy a lot, because he’ll feel the same way. And if he doesn’t, it’s OK. I’ve been excited about a lot of guys, and I’ve moved on from each and every one who wasn’t excited about me. Life goes on. And I found one who flew me across the country for our first date.
I don’t apologize for much, and I certainly don’t apologize for being excited. And neither should you. And also don’t apologize for peacing the F out on any person, relationship, or situation who makes you feel bad about it.
Yeah, I get a boner for everything that comes my way and I want that thing to be all hot and bothered for me as well. Sorry I’m not sorry.