What Up, Homebody? or, The Thing About Nesting

by Rachel on November 8, 2010

You guys.

I spent a good portion of Sunday on the couch, looking for a dining room table. Thanks, CSN, for supporting my habit.

Why, may you ask, was I looking for a dining room table? Well, because…I’m nesting.

I think everyone tends to turn to pimping her home when it gets colder…but it’s barely getting colder here. Truthfully, I think it’s because I’m getting older.

While I don’t consider 25 old at all, it’s an age that I always considered “adult.” And right around 24 and a half, I started to feel like one. While I’ve always liked homey things — who doesn’t like browsing Pottery Barn and dreaming about her future, which always includes an amazing kitchen island and a lot of monograms? — in the past few months, it’s become way more…pressing. I imagine this is how women feel when they suddenly want kids more than anything? I have never felt like I wanted my own space with such urgency.

Like, I actually get sad when I walk through Hob Lob. I want to take home a set of plate chargers like [Angelina/Madonna/Sandra] wanted to take home her black baby.

It’s not homesickness, because even when I was at home, it wasn’t my home — it was my grandma’s house. Now I live in a beautiful townhouse, and while it’s seriously just gorgeous and totally a scene fit for the Ikea showroom…it’s still not mine.

I want to choose my own dining room table and dishes and pictures to hang on the walls and I really want a dog.

I’m just nesting.

Given this heightened emotional state, I probably should not have gone shopping this weekend, but I needed some supplies for a fall baking project I’m planning to take on. So I headed out looking for cake decorating tools and some fall leaf cookie cutters.

This simple trip turned into what is commonly referred to as a “bender.” I mean, all the good stuff at Hob Lob was 50 percent off! I had to get two of these fabulous owl bowls…

I mean, $5 each and totally like something out of Anthro!? And then I couldn’t resist the most perfect picture frame for a Halloween picture…

And given all our talk about things that smell good on Friday, I then drove straight to Bath & Body Works for some new candles.

While shopping, I was bombarded with Christmas marketing. And I don’t generally care that all the Christmas stuff is out already, because that means the fall stuff is on sale. I’ve needed a pie pan for a while and I was able to get one for $3 just because it’s harvest-colored. And since I’m not baking a pie this week/am running out of kitchen space, I’m just using it as a place to put my jewelry until I’m ready to bake.

I also have wanted cute little spreaders for ages, so I got these guys for $2.

Oh, but you know what I didn’t get? Fall leaf motherfucking cookie cutters. See, that is the downside to all the Christmas stuff being out early. It’s great because when you are lucky enough to find the seasonal item you’re looking for, it’s probably going to be on sale…but it also means that there is a good chance it’s been cleared out to make room for snowman cookie cutters.

Which is such bullshit.

My mom is now sending me my cookie cutters from Michigan so my baking project is on hold until they arrive. Meanwhile, I’m just keeping the fall spirit alive by spreading brie on crackers with my new spreaders. It’s the best I can do — it’s going to be 80 degrees this week.

Anyway, I don’t often feel like I’m living for the future; in the past few months, I’ve gotten a lot better about being totally happy in the present and not waiting for thing to happen before I feel like I’ll be happy. But honestly, sometimes my intense, burning desire for my own place makes that really hard. I feel like Tina Fey at the beginning of “Baby Mama,” but I’m daydreaming about couches instead of children. Eric has been nice enough to humor me and my discussions about where we’ll put our imaginary Christmas tree and what sort of color scheme we should have in our imaginary bathroom. DIK.

Is this just what happens when you turn 25? Has anyone else experienced a sudden, overwhelming urge to nest?

Also, what did you do with your extra hour this weekend? Eric was out of town this weekend and came home last night, so we used the extra hour to get cozy in bed and argue about what kind of imaginary dog we’re getting. Please tell me I’m not the only one.

{ 42 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Rachel November 8, 2010 at 10:06 am

Mmmm I want that creamy nutmeg candle in my apartment ASAP. Looks heavenly : )

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2 Christina November 8, 2010 at 10:08 am

That’s what happens when you fall in love and can imagine spending the rest of your life with that person. I’m 26, and started the ‘nesting’ thing around 22-23, when I was 2 years into a relationship with my boyfriend (6 years, still going strong).

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3 Rachel November 8, 2010 at 7:39 pm

Oh, well, that explains it. heh :)

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4 Ashley November 8, 2010 at 9:08 pm

Exxxxxxxxxxxxxxactly!

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5 Jackie (ananda prana) November 8, 2010 at 10:08 am

Bath and Body Works has amazingggg candles.

I’m 23, not 25, but when I moved into my own apartment the only thing I could think about was shopping for furniture and decorating. Just wanted to make the new place feel like home :)

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6 Michele @ Healthy Cultivations November 8, 2010 at 10:10 am

That photo frame is great!

Oh, Bath and Body Works. I could write an Ode to B&BW! How I love thee! But I have to keep myself out of there because I go crazy, black out, and wake up at home amidst a sea of shower gel, body cream, and foaming hand wash.

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7 Jess November 8, 2010 at 10:17 am

I don’t think there is an age for nesting as much as a need for the comfort that only making your space look great (i.e. spending shit tons of money) can bring. I’m 22 and am having a nesting phase because I know I’m moving in the summer.
I think it has a lot to do with comfort and, to an extent, security.

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8 Alli November 8, 2010 at 10:26 am

OMG Rachel it’s like you read my mind. The bf and my’s roommate moved out a month ago and took 90% of the apartment furniture with him. Now that we have the place to ourselves and we’re, quite literally, starting over with a clean slate, I’ve been nesting like mad!

In fact, we actually spent this past weekend building a table and bench set for Thanksgiving, because I couldn’t find anything I like, either thrifting or at Ikea (which are really the only options I can afford). It wasn’t that hard – we got the plans from http://ana-white.com/ and knocked it out in two days. But seriously. I walk into BedBath and Beyond and it’s Gimme City.

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9 Gracie November 8, 2010 at 10:30 am

First of all – did you get that pie pan at Michael’s? Because I snagged an identical one when I went there to get those mini loaf pans per your suggestion (hey, I needed to get as much use out of that 20% off coupon as I could!).

As far as nesting goes, I’m actually trying to get myself *out* of that mode. If all goes as planned I’ll be leaving the family nest and moving out within the next couple of months. I’m excited to create a little nest of my own, but I need to make sure not to let my homebody-self take over until I find a homeBOY to keep me company!

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10 Rachel November 8, 2010 at 7:38 pm

Yup, Michael’s!! It matches the loaf pans!!

Having a nest of your own — without a boy — is SO fine! I would be fine with that!! Then you don’t have to compromise on decor.

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11 Laura Georgina November 8, 2010 at 10:30 am

I nested a tiiiiny bit for my first apartment (I had tablecloths–in the plural!), but then I had to be brutally parted from all my lovely stuff when I moved to England. Two moves and one horrid transcontinental move later, I don’t even remember what is my stuff and what came with my (decently-furnished) current house anymore. My nice stuff is languishing in my mom’s attic, not that I remember what goodies are even in those boxes anymore, and I’ve had a rolled-up poster in my living room for putting up now for almost a year. I’ve lost ALL nesting capabilities. It’s just SO sad.

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12 Emily November 8, 2010 at 10:41 am

oh yeah, i love nesting. bought two cats actually. unfortunately i still feel like i am stuck in this weird transient/unshaped part of life between graduation/adulthood and actually having somewhere to start my life. having a boyfriend and trying to make plans together is wonderful and much more fun to day dream about, but it does make things a bit more complicated… especially when you’re stuck in the day dream place financially but really want to move forward and get on with it already emotionally…
xo
em

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13 Rachel November 8, 2010 at 7:37 pm

Yup, I’m totally stuck financially. So frustrating!!

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14 T November 8, 2010 at 10:52 am

i went batshit crazy on some really fantastic, ginormo fall leaf (and pun’kin) cookie cutters at Sur La Table a few years back that i have used exactly 1x if you’d like to borrow them.

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15 Rachel November 8, 2010 at 7:36 pm

Ahhh thanks — I actually need mini ones for this! My mom sent mine from Michigan today though!!

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16 Matt November 8, 2010 at 11:05 am

I want to nest 24/7. LOL.

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17 Nicole November 8, 2010 at 11:10 am

So funny because I am kind of feeling the opposite. My boyfriend is the one that wants to buy a house and have his own space but I’m the one that’s like, ‘eehhh…with owning a home comes MAJOR responsibility.” like, if it breaks? You have to fix it. If you lose your job, you’re stuck with a mortgage you can’t get out of. You’re STUCK. That’s how I feel about it. I don’t know if it’s bc I’m scared shitless since we’ve been saving and looking to buy for the past two years, but it’s scary to me. And I’m 31. You’d think by now I’d be ready for it…

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18 Rachel November 8, 2010 at 7:34 pm

I totally see your point, especially on the “if it breaks, you have to fix it” part! UGH.

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19 Alina @ Duty Free Foodie November 8, 2010 at 11:11 am

I am 25.
I refuse to nest.
Instead, I am putting money into a holiday fund.
… I am sure it’s on its way, but … not yet please!

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20 Smash @ Appreciate The Now November 8, 2010 at 11:31 am

Isn’t there an IKEA near Houston? That’d be a good place to find a table and chairs. Or maybe a Home Goods/TJ Maxx.

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21 Rachel November 8, 2010 at 7:33 pm

Oh I HAVE a table and chars. My place is fully furnished. I’m just fantasizing about the one I will get when I move out!!

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22 Alicia at Poise in Parma November 8, 2010 at 11:53 am

My friends joke that I’m an 80 year old living in a 27 year old’s body. I tell them that their jealous of my retirement fund and awesome cooking skills.

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23 Alexa @ The Girl In Chucks November 8, 2010 at 12:07 pm

I know what you mean! Though I still don’t have a home of my own, when I was in my early 20s, I was living with my sister and brother in law…and I HATED it. I wanted an apartment of my own so bad, but living in San Francisco, where the rents are astronomical, I really couldn’t afford it. I stared at magazine after magazine, noting all of the cute things I would have in my apartment. I spent hours on craigslist looking at all of the apartments I couldn’t afford (heck, I still do that…). I just wanted my own space so badly I could scream. Actually, I did scream. On the phone to my mother. Like a big baby!

I finally got my own apartment at 26, and I fell in love.

But now I sit around and think about what I’ll do once I move out of a studio and into a one bedroom place! ;)

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24 Jasmine @ Eat Move Write November 8, 2010 at 12:36 pm

I’m impressed you feel like an adult at 25. I’m on my second marriage and will be 29 on my next birthday and I’m still waiting to feel grown up lol.

I’m a nester. I’ve always been that way actually. My home needs to FEEL like a home. Otherwise, I feel off balance. Love the owl bowls. I’m really into owls this year, and there seems to be owl stuff everywhere.

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25 Selina November 8, 2010 at 1:47 pm

Oh Rachel, you have not lived until you have tried these candles!
Amy’s Country Candles – http://www.amyscountrycandles.com/

I promise, you will not want anything else. These blow Yankee and all other store candles out of the water…if you like strong scents. They are made in my hometown of thibodaux, LA, but have locations in several states. I found this location in Houston:

Sweet Aromas & More
2935 Quail Hawk Drive
Houston, TX 77014
281-907-3090

I love food smells much more than flowery smells. Almost all on this site smell great, although some have been known to smell like dirty bath water or stinky towels too. So its much better to smell them in person, if at all possible. Some of my favorites are: Vanilla Sugar Cookie, Blueberry Cobbler, Pumpkin Spice Swirl, Pumpkin Spice, Hot Baked Apple Pie and Mulberry.

Enjoy!

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26 Rachel November 8, 2010 at 7:32 pm

Oooh awesome!! Thank you!

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27 Wilson November 8, 2010 at 2:26 pm

I have two friends that are teachers in China and they wanted some fall-themed cookie cutters and I found some to send to them at Wal-mart less than 2 weeks ago. Maybe find them there? They were in the fall season section though :/

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28 Rachel November 8, 2010 at 7:32 pm

Awww thanks — I actually looked at Wal-Mart and they didn’t have them anymore! Luckily I have some at home in Michigan and my mom is going to send them to me!

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29 cyndie November 8, 2010 at 2:38 pm

Oh, shit…I am 21 and I’m already starting to feel this way. I was in Costco the other day having a heyday over their home furnishings.

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30 thezenofmaking November 8, 2010 at 3:22 pm

Ladyfriend, I’ve been nesting since I was 19. I completely understand the need for one’s own space, set up the way it *should* be. I mean, I totally had nice pots and pans and real kitchen appliances by the end of college. If that was wrong, I don’t wanna be right!

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31 Alyssa November 8, 2010 at 4:19 pm

I’m glad I’m not the only one that nests! I currently can’t move out due to my job situation (temporary until next July) buuut one of my boyfriend and I’s favorite pasttimes is going into Pier 1 or Sur La Table and just looking at all of the amazing cooking/house-y things for hours. Then we dream about having our apartment…hopefully in the near future. We both peed ourselves when we found out a Sur La Table opened up really close to us. And we are only 23 (me) and 25 (him).

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32 marie November 8, 2010 at 4:41 pm

yessssss- last year before moving to London I splurged on a new bedroom set, new comforter, curtains, everything. My bedroom was my baby. I freaking loved it. Now its packed up in my parents basement til we move back to the States.

p.s. love the pie plate as jewelry holder! super cute idea!

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33 Erin November 8, 2010 at 5:39 pm

I love love love your owl bowls!

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34 Jess November 8, 2010 at 6:38 pm

Haha holy crap Rachel this post perfectly sums up my weekend. The BF and I dropped an obscene amount of money on cooking supplies, hand mixers, sheets, a comforter, etc. etc. etc. at Target this weekend. All I wanted to do was get everything ready to bake Christmas cookies and decorate his apartment. (I have roommates, my decorating options are limited, but I can go wild at his place…)

And my friend and I were just talking this weekend about how we can’t wait until we can afford to get our own places. I mean seriously, nothing is more of a nesting buzz kill then having roommates.

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35 Erin (Travel, Eat, Repeat) November 8, 2010 at 6:48 pm

Wow, you’ve just perfectly summed up exactly why I can’t wait to have my own place. My roommate is a great friend but I so desperately want my own place to decorate, enjoy, entertain in and make my own.

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36 FoodCents November 8, 2010 at 8:20 pm

Nest, whatever makes your lil’ Hooker heart happy.

I bought my first house when I was 24 but wasn’t in a nesting phase then. It took me a great long while to figure out what I wanted to do with the blank state, but it worked itself out.

I am much more of a nester these days. It’s nice to wake up & not be hungover.

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37 Ashley November 8, 2010 at 9:09 pm

I’m nesting too! Crazy. I just decided to stop hating on our townhouse (which we own) and start loving it up with decorations. First up is painting the bedroom!

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38 Diane November 9, 2010 at 9:51 am

I recently got the decorating urge, since the cold weather has (finally) started in D.C. I was resisting for a long time, because I wasn’t sure if I was going to move apartments. Now, I just want to put up posters and buy a vanity (getting it up our M.C. Escher stairs will be fun) and use Christmas lights as a legitimate accessory. I just want my room to look like those hipster bedrooms on Tumblr, is that so wrong?!?

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39 Brittney November 9, 2010 at 10:01 am

I used to not be a dog person and thought it would be a huge hassle to have one (sometimes it is), but my hubby talked me into it in January and I LOVE my dog. Do it. Getting our dog maybe the best thing I ever did… or let someone talk me into.

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40 Mary (A Merry Life) November 9, 2010 at 4:44 pm

OMG YES! I’m totally in the nesting mood right now. It’s such a strong urge it’s crazy. But I don’t have any extra money for it so I’m just dream shopping right now. ;)

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41 Mary (A Merry Life) November 9, 2010 at 4:46 pm

Oh, also? Love, love, love the owl bowls.

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42 christine November 27, 2010 at 6:38 pm

YES. ohmygosh. SUCH a huge need to nest. problem is I’m living at home and will be for a couple more years so I can’t nest. lots of built up frustration about lack of nesting ability :( not even joking. I LONG for like, salt and pepper shakers and an excuse to buy kitchen gadgets.

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