A. Because after a three-hour discussion in which your boyfriend tells you that you “need to make some friends” and “can’t rely on him for everything,” you’re going to want a hammer.
Not to get violent, of course — simply as a reminder that you took damn good care of yourself for the first 24 years of your life and just because you have a boyfriend doesn’t mean you can’t anymore.
If you have tools, you will not doubt your own independence.
If you have tools, you can buy items that require assembly or installation, carry them up two flights of stairs by yourself, and put them together all by yourself!
And when you are done, you can clean up the sawdust, admire your handiwork, and be glad that even though you grew up without a dad, you had an amazing mother who not only had a hammer — she had a buzz saw and a power drill. And even though she took care of you, she also reminded you that she wouldn’t always be able to do that, and told you better start learning to do certain things for yourself.
And you can be grateful that you lived alone in both Chicago and New York, far from family and friends, long before you were part of a couple. And then, like now, you could never afford to have someone help you. So you could walk fifteen blocks home from Home Depot, lugging a can of paint and a bunch of supplies — a cab would be too expensive — and then you could paint your apartment from top to bottom without assistance.
Experiences like those are the reason you know that no, you don’t need more friends. You just need the opportunity to take care of yourself.
Then you can call a tow truck, have your dead car towed to the mechanic, and have your alternator and battery replaced all by yourself — even though most women refuse to have their oil changed without a man present.
And you can do all this while disregarding the fact that the guy calling your self-reliance into question cannot fry bacon, sew on a button, or set up anything with an “on/off” button without your assistance.
You do not need more friends or a boyfriend or even your family. You simply need to use your tools more often.