So the lack of discernible seasons in Texas means I have no real concept of time, meaning I didn’t really realize it was June. It still doesn’t feel like it’s June even though the calendar is telling me it is. The fact that most of the country is excited for this thing called summer is really bizarre to me. When you don’t have school to break up the year and you don’t have seasons, life seems to go on in and endless loop where time doesn’t really exist. It’s really surreal.
Anyway, as it’s now June, I realized that — Holy shit, the year is nearly half over! I also realized that I haven’t set many monthly goals. I’m doing well with my New Year’s verb, but when it comes to monthly goals, I only set them in February and March.
So what happened?
Well, February and March felt normal, but there was a new job in January, April was devoted to moving, and May was pretty much sucked up by vacation and the new puppies.
So basically, I just avoided figuring out the new normal.
When my life feels like it’s moving really fast or that I’m dealing with things beyond my control, I often tell myself I’ll wait until things get back to normal to check off that next big thing on my to-do list. I don’t want to commit to anything because “I just need to wait until things get back to normal.”
“Then I’ll be able to [work out in the morning/write more/give up caffeine/go to the farmers market every weekend].”
Just a guess here, but perhaps you’ve told yourself the same thing?
Maybe you too have put off making a goal or changing some aspect of your life that you really want to change because you’re waiting for the day when everything will magically return to normal?
Well, today’s lesson is this: life in your twenties is constantly changing, so normal is constantly changing too. You have to keep figuring out the new normal if you want to get anything accomplished.
I mean, my life right now is so radically different than it was a year ago (and than it was six months ago…and than it was two months ago), I don’t even know what sort of normal I think things could get back to! But whatever it is, it’s probably unrealistic to think it will happen. Really, I don’t think any of our lives will feel stable or normal for any extended period of time, and the faster we get over it and start determining the new normal, the better off we’ll be. If we can be flexible and accept that things are changing and set new goals in the context of what will be normal for now — maybe a month, maybe only two weeks — then we’ll probably get a lot more accomplished.
So since it’s a new month, think of some new goals, but don’t let yourself fall into the trap that you can’t do certain things this month because you need to wait until things get back to normal.
And do share your new goals in that context!