This weekend I began pondering a dilemma: is it wrong to make your own birthday cake?
This is one of my first birthdays in which my mom won’t be able to make me an amazing cake. My first thought is, OK…shouldn’t Eric be making me a cake? Then I imagined that. I imagined him sending me off for a birthday pedicure while he spent the day in the kitchen, burning himself and shouting obscenities. I saw myself coming home to two puppies covered in batter and a cake that looked like a third-grade art project.
That seems like an awful lot of effort on his part for an awful lot of disappointment on mine.
And on the other hand, I feel silly even questioning making my own cake. I mean, I am independent and I don’t see any reason you should wait around for other people to take care of you. If you really want a cake, you should just make it your damn self, right!?
Especially if you want a pretty pink cake, not a third-grade art project.
I suppose Eric could just order me a pretty pink cake from a bakery, but I don’t get that many opportunities to bake a cake and practice my cake skillz. And honestly, it’s just a birthday, not a huge deal to me. I don’t want to be That Girl who has to have a certain pink cake that her boyfriend has to take a half day off work to find a bakery to make it for her.
So at this point, I think I’m just going to make my own cake!
Here is my inspiration:
The Sweeter Side of Amy’s Bread: Cakes, Cookies, Bars, Pastries and More from New York City’s Favorite Bakery. It’s hard to see it in that picture, but the birthday cake I’ve been dreaming about is the pink cake from Amy’s Bread in NYC. I saw it in the cookbook last winter and fell in love. It’s just so delightfully retro and fabulous.
Rose Cake Tutorial from I Am Baker. I saw this cake earlier this year and fell in love. I’m not sure I can pull this technique off, but I am tempted to try!
Pink Rainbow Cake from Call Me Cupcake! This is a twist on the rainbow cake my mom made for me last year, just with slightly different colors. I try to do that rose frosting, I don’t think I’d attempt to do this too…but maybe I would.
Rose Cupcakes via Style Me Pretty. I love the rose technique from the white cake applied to individual cupcakes like this!
I mean, I think that once you look at these, it becomes kind of obvious that most guys wouldn’t be able to make a cake like any of these. Most people couldn’t even make a cake like any of these! This really is a job for my mother, and in her absence, I think I shall take it on myself.
But…it still feels like by not demanding Eric make my birthday cake dreams come true by any means necessary, I’m keeping him from demonstrating what society tells me is an extremely important opportunity for him to prove his love. We’ve already established I have to tell him exactly what I want when it comes to gifts, but perhaps making my own cake is taking it a step too far.