I mention Eric pretty regularly on my blog, but I’ve never been quite sure what to say about him.
When I first started dating him/blogging about it, I was really concerned about not being That Girl Who Posts the Mundane Shit Her Boyfriend Does and Acts All OMG ISN’T HE THE BESTEST CUTEST GUY EVERRRRRR?!?!? I could gush about him, but who wants to hear that? And most of the conversations I find cute/funny/interesting or that I tell my friends are too bizarre/inside-joke-ish to try to explain via the Internet (see also: everyone thinking he was an asshole over the shaving cream incident, which was totally light and funny to us).
On the flip side, I was also worried about not keeping it real — being That Girl Who Tells You Her Relationship is So Perfect and You Know It’s BS. The fact is, there is a lot of negative/awkward stuff that happens as you’re getting to know someone and especially once you move across the country for them. I didn’t want to be all “Cue the credits!” after I moved last year and only post the times he’s charming and leave out how new/different/tough this year has been for me (and us) at times. I didn’t want to be fake.
I’ve also had to deal with the fact that he has a right to some privacy and doesn’t want every conversation we have posted on the Internet (especially considering the story would never be told from his perspective). I’m lucky to date someone who lets me write about him at all, even negative stuff, but I have to be careful not to turn him into some character for everyone’s entertainment. I’m willing to do that with a guy I’ve hit it and quit it with, but not so much with someone I love. (On a related note, this is the same way I feel about sex tapes.)
So! As a result, I feel like I’ve given really strange impression of him and our relationship. I’ve never really written about who he is as a person or how he makes me feel.
The easiest way for me to describe our relationship is to play one of my favorite games: Who Would You Cast In the Movie Version Of Your Life?
If I were making a movie about my life, I’d probably want James Roday to play Eric.
Actually, I’d only want James Roday to play Eric if I could get Dulé Hill to play me. You might think I’d want a smoking hot half-black actress to play me, but the fact is, the chemistry these two have on “Psych” reminds me so much of the way Eric and I interact that I’d totally be fine having a dude play me. (And really, Dulé Hill is just so good-looking that it would be an honor to have him play me.) Anyway, Eric is very irreverent and silly (like Shawn), while I tend to roll my eyes a lot, wear very tight pants, and think I have really good game but there will always be something just nerdy about me (like Gus). These two seem to always be at play and you just know from how fast they trade one-liners and banter that they are just so thrilled to have found someone who can keep up with them and who is always one step ahead with a joke or a bit, and I feel like that’s how Eric and I are together.
If James Roday wasn’t available, or Dulé Hill wasn’t willing to play a woman, the next person I’d have read for his character is David Cross.
Though Eric is considerably younger and hairier — and has a voice that is ten times lower — he reminds me a lot of David Cross, who just happens to be my favorite comedian. Aside from the glasses and facial hair, they also share a similar way of making a joke or just a point and telling stories. And by “similar way of telling stories” I mean “take a long-ass time to tell a story but I don’t really mind because funny and interesting things happen in the tangents.”
This? Is similar to what I live with.
Since David Cross keeps me endlessly amused, entertained, and thinking, I suppose it makes sense that I’d want to date someone with a similar sense of humor, style of storytelling, and approach to bullshit. I love listening to David Cross on long drives so I guess that’s why I like taking road trips with Eric.
If David Cross were not available to star as Eric in my movie, or was just unwilling to wear a hair piece, I’d probably want Paul Rudd to audition next. What’s funny about Paul Rudd is that he reminds me a little bit of Eric in…every movie he’s in.
I wasn’t the first person to say Eric resembles Peter in “I Love You Man.” He got that a lot and had actually never even seen the movie. (Which is how I knew he was saying “totes magotes” without irony.) Although Eric has a lot of guy friends and isn’t socially awkward, there is something about his nice-guy approach that reminds me of Peter.
The other Paul Rudd characters — Andy in “Wet Hot,” Brian Fantana in “Anchorman,” and David in “The 40-Year-Old Virgin” — all remind me in subtle ways of Eric.
He’s a fan of comically overdramatic responses to everything like Andy….
And our banter sounds a lot like “You know how I know you’re gay…” in “The 40-Year-Old Virgin”…
And when he wants to be intentionally cheesy and ridiculous, he sounds exactly like Brian Fantana…
Eric tends to enjoy being intentionally awkward when he’s being funny, but I’m convinced that eventually one day this will turn into unintentional awkwardness, and then he’s just going to be Phil from “Modern Family.”
For the most part, life in our apartment reminds me of an ongoing improv game. After all the improv I’ve done (theater kids FTW!) it’s so great for me to have that at home, all the time. A lot of my Beckinfield videos are actually based on our real conversations that I then make fit in with my character.
Although we like to play, we also have hours of conversations about serious topics. Just the other night, a segment on “The Daily Show” led to us staying up until 2 AM talking about politics, the Occupy Movement, racism, and reality TV. And despite all his joking, he’s the responsible one in our relationship in a lot of ways. When we first met, I was a little intimidated by his good credit score and lack of…well, baggage and typical 25-year-old-guy bullshit. I’ve definitely grown up a lot this year when it comes to managing money and just acting like a grown-ass adult. That said, he’s a total flake when it comes to schedules and such, so that’s where I tend to be the responsible one.
So. That’s the guy who fell in love with me that I fell in love with too. I’d like you to like him because we plan on staying together for quite some time.
(And to answer the question no one is brave enough to ask because you know how I feel about it…probably sometime next year.)