Tuesday, September 4, 2012

{living in sin} 21 things going through my mind during the first pre-marital counseling session

by Rachel on September 4, 2012

A couple weeks ago, Eric and I attended our first pre-marital counseling session. Here’s what was going through my mind before, during, and after the session.

  1. GODDAMN THIS HOUSTON TRAFFIC WHAT THE HELL PEOPLE!?!??!?!
  2. Oooh, this house is nice!
  3. Holy shit, that’s a lot of paperwork.
  4. Wow, I didn’t even know one could be on that many drugs.
  5. I feel like she’s going to think I’m really boring.
  6. Oh, questions on daddy issues! Score! This is where I really shine.
  7. Who am I kidding? Daddy issues are a dime a dozen around these parts.
  8. I wonder what Eric is answering to all these questions.
  9. Oh, she’s a really nice lady! Or is she just making us think that so we’ll tell her more things?
  10. This is the most comfortable couch ever.
  11. Why is she asking me about my drinking habits? I said I have a couple drinks a week. Does she think I’m lying?
  12. Are we supposed to hold hands? If we don’t hold hands, is she going to write “NOT AFFECTIONATE” on her notepad?
  13. Why am I so nervous right now!?
  14. When she asks a question meant for both of us, who is going to answer first? If I answer first, is she going to write “SHE’S BOSSY” on her notepad?!
  15. I want to go home, or at least put on some large sunglasses and a wig. And maybe Eric should wear a fake moustache and a hat. And voice-modifiers for both of us.
  16. I don’t like these open-ended questions.
  17. What are my goals for pre-marital counseling?
  18. NO BUT SERIOUSLY WHAT IS SHE WRITING ON THAT NOTEPAD?!?
  19. Why is that a goal of yours, Eric? Do we have a problem with that? Why didn’t you tell me we had a problem with that?!?!?
  20. OK so we’re holding hands? OK.
  21. This is going to be fucking sweet.

Our first session was more of a getting-to-know-you-what-to-expect kind of session, and despite all my feelings throughout, I seriously left really pumped to get started with our actual sessions. As we talked through our goals for PMC, I found myself getting really excited. While I feel like Eric and I have a really solid relationship, it has its weak spots and it’s reassuring that these are things we can improve upon. Right now, the plan is to go once every two weeks. On the agenda for today: how to fight better. Communication skills FTW!

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